In 21st century romantic relationships between men and women, it is easy to get confused and forgetful about what really adds value and what does not. When a man really cares about you and loves you, and not just selfishly looking to gratify his own desires, the relationship takes a completely different and better trajectory. There is nothing forced. His concern is honest and genuine and there are no hidden agendas with him.
When you finally meet a person who is able to love you selflessly, you realize that there is really not love like this one. He is after your mind, not just your body.
1. He never pushes you to do things you do not want to do.
Someone who truly loves you will always respect your decisions and will never push you to do things that are not for you, that could hurt you or you are not ready for.
2. He will listen carefully.
This person will not pretend to listen, but will really hear you, understand what you say, what you think, and give answers accordingly. Shallow conversations often become an exchange of words in which you wait for your turn to speak again. But with this person, it will never be like this. There will be long deep conversations.
3. He will give you space for you to develop yourself as a person.
Part of love means never clipping the wings of the other person or taking away her needed personal space to keep developing as an individual.
4. He will do whatever it takes to take care of you.
It could be lying next to you and listening to you talk until you feel better. It may be leaving you alone for a while while you manage to understand and process what just happened in your life. He is there for you when you need someone to share with.
5. He will give you significant touches throughout the day.
There is nothing more reassuring than his arms wrapped around you from behind. If he is giving you regular significant touches such as hugs and hand-holding throughout the day, it shows you how much he loves you and how important you are to him.
6. He will remind you how much he misses you.
This does not mean that your phone is inundated with repetitive copy-and-paste texts, but rather those little messages: “Have a nice day” or “I miss you” to remind you that wherever you are, he is still thinking of you and wishing you the best.
7. He will remember you during the day.
As opposed to #6, he will leave hints that he is thinking of you. They will be playful subtle clues for you to realize that he wants to brighten your day.
When it dawns on you that he just said “hello” or “I miss you”, it means that he is working on the relationship.
8. He will help you in everything.
He will be there to support you through any kind of crisis, whether emotional, psychological or physical. He will never leave you alone when you need him.
9. Be concerned about what you feel and think.
He will want to know how you feel, how you see the world and what you value. He will want to know about your goals and understand what moves you to act and live the way you do.
10. He will love you the way you are.
If there is a clear sign of love, it is when he accepts you as you are and does not expect you to change or to do things you would not normally do. He loves you for who you are today and not for what he expects you to be in the future.
Of course, he will want you to improve yourself, but it is for your good and not just because he wants you to do it.
People have a need to be with other people. In a romantic relationship, people are looking for someone with whom they can have a “meeting of the minds” in all areas of life. You should seek this kind of man, because that is where fulfillment lies.